What's going on here?!?

Well, I decided I need a fun blog. My blog used to be fun, but now it's full of personal things and every day stuff, and things I don't want everyone to know. It has been really healing for me, and helpful, but now I think I'm ready to not take things so seriously anymore. So let the fun begin!

If we are new friends, just met, or you don't know me well, there are a few things you should know in order to understand this blog.

First: I am an open book. I don't hold much back. I like being upfront, and I feel like we can all learn from each other's experiences if we have the courage to share them.

Second: I am divorced. I am an LDS woman (go HERE if you don't know what that means) who thought she was doing everything right, and it turns out she wasn't. I got married in the temple to someone who I loved, and who loved me. We struggled with infertility together which was harder on our marriage than I realized. We adopted two beautiful children, which was the most wonderful gift I could imagine, but it was also really hard, and permanently damaging in ways I didn't realize. We looked like a perfect family on the outside. We went to church, had callings, read scriptures, prayed, went to the temple... I EVEN CANNED! :) But one day, out of the blue, things changed. My husband made some lifestyle changes that didn't include a wife and kids, and there you go! (Out of respect for the situation I won't say what happened... but yeah, it is totally what you're thinking:) So my kids and I moved a million miles away (or like 300, whatever) to live with my parents while I finish my degree in Social Work.

Third: The way I deal with hard things is to laugh about them. I like to find the bright side of even totally crappy situations, and that sometimes means that I make fun or light of things that aren't really that funny. Like divorce. All by itself, it's not a super hilarious subject, but me dating, me living with my parents after 12 years of NOT, me trying to do all kinds of normal family things without anyone there to help, yeah, that's the stuff that epically hilarious stories are made from. (and even if they AREN'T that funny, there's something to be said for laughing instead of crying...:)

Fourth: Kindo goes along with three. Everyone deals with trials in different ways. Everyone has a different opinion. Everyone thinks about things from a different angle. I love that about people. I celebrate that. However, at the end of the day this is MY blog, and this is the way I deal with/ think about/ look at things. I am sorry if I offend you with anything I say. I try hard not to offend people ever, but it happens sometimes. It just does. And I want to know about that. I want to hear your viewpoint. I am in no way finished growing, and if you can help me do that, by all means, share. But talk nice. We all have rights here. You have the right to stop reading if I bug you. I have the right to delete your mean comments, OR publicly mock your stupidity here on the internet for the world to see. (FYI it will usually be the latter:)

Fifth: I say the word "crap" entirely too often. (Not super important, but I felt like there should be a fifth point...:)

So now that we have set the rules, lets have a good laugh at my expense, shall we?